Make Stress Less » Stress Managemnet http://makestressless.com Stress Management Tips Thu, 12 Jan 2012 09:55:38 +0000 en hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=3.3.1 21 Golden Rules for Reducing Stress http://makestressless.com/21-golden-rules-for-reducing-stress/ http://makestressless.com/21-golden-rules-for-reducing-stress/#comments Tue, 22 Mar 2011 10:18:48 +0000 Kathy http://makestressless.com/?p=149 function sbmgValidateFormPostPg1(name,email) { var name_fld = document.getElementById('sbmgValidateFormPostPg1' + '_' + name); var email_fld = document.getElementById('sbmgValidateFormPostPg1' + '_' + email); var reg = /^([A-Za-z0-9_\-\.])+\@([A-Za-z0-9_\-\.])+\.([A-Za-z]{2,4})$/; var msg = ''; if ( name_fld.value == '' ) msg = '- Name Required\n'; if ( reg.test(email_fld.value) == false ) msg += '- Valid Email Required'; if ( msg == '' ) return true; else alert(msg); return false; } 1.     Work no more than 10 hours daily. 2.    Have at least one and a half days off each week from normal work routine. 3.    Allow at least half an hour for each meal. 4.    Eat slowly and chew well. 5.    Cultivate the habit of listening to relaxing music. 6.    Practice relaxation or meditation at]]> function sbmgValidateFormPostPg2(name,email) { var name_fld = document.getElementById('sbmgValidateFormPostPg2' + '_' + name); var email_fld = document.getElementById('sbmgValidateFormPostPg2' + '_' + email); var reg = /^([A-Za-z0-9_\-\.])+\@([A-Za-z0-9_\-\.])+\.([A-Za-z]{2,4})$/; var msg = ''; if ( name_fld.value == '' ) msg = '- Name Required\n'; if ( reg.test(email_fld.value) == false ) msg += '- Valid Email Required'; if ( msg == '' ) return true; else alert(msg); return false; }



1.     Work no more than 10 hours daily.
2.    Have at least one and a half days off each week from normal work routine.
3.    Allow at least half an hour for each meal.
4.    Eat slowly and chew well.
5.    Cultivate the habit of listening to relaxing music.
6.    Practice relaxation or meditation at least once a day for no less than fifteen minutes.
7.    Develop the habit of walking, talking and moving at a slower pace.
8.    Smile and respond cheerfully whenever meeting anyone.
9.    Plan at least one away from it all holiday each year.
10.  Make time for exercise each week, preferably outdoors to get the added benefit of fresh air and natural light.
11.    Examine your eating habits and balance your diet.
12. If emotional / sexual relationships are upsetting you, seek advice.
13.   If you are unhappy at work, stop and take a look at your choices (retraining, new areas of work, job agencies).
14.    Develop a hobby that is creative rather than competitive and spend time on it.
15.    Have a regular massage or a long soak in the bath.
16.    Concentrate on the present, avoiding the tendency to dwell on past events and future uncertainties, do not to worry about bridges you have not yet crossed.
17.    Work and act methodically i.e.: finish one task before starting another.
18.    Express your feelings without antagonism or hostility towards others.
19.    Don’t accept or set yourself unrealistic deadlines.
20. Don’t blame others, or other props, such as alcohol or drugs accept personal responsibility for your life.
21. Don’t condemn, criticise or compare others.

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The Power of the Mind the Conscious and Subconscious Mind

The Conscious Mind

Puppy AsleepThe rational mind, the logical mind, the decision maker, the intelligent mind. This is where we experience pleasurable sensations, pain, joy and laughter, our perceptions of our senses and emotions.

The conscious mind can only concentrate on what is happening NOW if it gets cluttered it cannot cope, causing forgetfulness or the inability to concentrate.

Its functions control; reading, writing, arithmetic, verbal analysis, logic, ego and linear processing.

The Subconscious Mind

Does not interpret, it simple stores. Gathering information like a large database, it also collects all our feeling senses. It is immense as it harbours all the information we accumulate throughout our life from conception, but most of it is buried, as we never need it. Very happy and very painful events are easier to recall as they have an emotional charge around them. Repressed emotions are when we do not want to face up to something; it is always there with you even on your happiest day,

The stressed subconscious mind is like a large jug, its contents increasing, until it overflows as we keep on topping it up with unhappy memories, compounding misery, making our expectations lower. We must learn to recognise what the jug is holding and how to deal with it. A stress victim is someone whose jug is constantly overflowing making them feel as if they are unable to cope. The subconscious mind is the powerful, irrational mind overruling the conscious, rational one

e.g. A little girl touched a frog by mistake when she was two, it frightened her. Now, all through her life, frogs scare her even though her conscious mind (the logical one) tells her it cannot harm her. The subconscious mind overrules the logical mind with the memory of the fear.

The subconscious functions are non-verbal, recognition, imagination, creativity, emotion, simultaneous processing, identity symbolism. We must look after the mind as well as the body. Imagine if you had a very expensive car you would not drive it at full speed, not checking it for fuel or oil, then leave it running all night, get up the next day and do it all over again? NO

The mind is the same; we must switch off the engine, let it calm down, and then check under the bonnet. The problems will still be there but you will be calmer and stronger to deal with them.

Say To Yourself

“I am my own person starting afresh. I have every right to be my own person, no one is better, I take the good from the past and throw away the rubbish”.

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The Power of Emotions



We often sabotage ourselves through the unconscious mind. Self-sabotage is when we put ourselves in the jail of our own mind and not allowing ourselves to feel our very negative and destructive emotions, pain, guilt and bitterness. By not allowing ourselves to let go of these feelings we are only punishing ourselves. We need to physically get in touch with our feelings, which provoke anxiety and identify what it is that helps to release them. Failure to do this will suppress and only compound the problem.

The 4 most detrimental hazards blocking our experience, joy and personal fulfilment are:

  1. Regret Living in the past
  2. Remorse Unforgiving
  3. Guilt How we punish ourselves
  4. Anger Hidden or suppressed hurt

Clearing out the mind and getting rid of the blame and doubt makes room to plant new positive thoughts that can grow into a healthy, happy and fulfilled life.

Holding on to the past stops new opportunities from entering our lives. Learning to let go and move forward is a very important tool. Sometimes we are afraid to let go of the past because it is familiar, where as the future is unknown, this limits the development of a more positive future. Behind our fears lie a whole web of psychological and emotional conditioning that weakens our self-confidence and self worth, taking away our ability to go forward in trust and our sense of adventure.

By suppressing emotions we actually compound the negative effects of our emotions. Suppressed emotion can affect us physically, mentally and emotionally as well as limiting our potential for creative energy and future happiness.

Trauma

An event creating enough emotional charge is a trauma. This emotion is stored in the subconscious mind and is in constant danger of restimulation. It is the restimulation of the same trauma that is the problem. All traumas contain physical and emotional pain leading to the shutdown of the rational mind. For the trauma to enter the subconscious (irrational) mind there has to be this shutdown. Everyone can experience trauma in their life, it is only the ones that are stuck that pose a problem.

Phobias are the restimulation of traumas that keep the phobia going.

Dominant Personality

We must learn not to be so affected by the Dominant Personality, we have to recognise emotional blackmail and not give in to it. A Dominant Personality is a damaged individual. They are not to blame for our stress, rather the effect they are having on us is result of the fact that we care for them.

If we are totally balanced, positive and constructive in all our interactions with other people we cannot have a Dominant Personality. You must say, “I am the most important person to me, no one should be more important than me, others can be equal but not better”. If a Dominant Personality opposes your will, just remove yourself from the situation. Whilst hanging onto the anger and hurt you are making them the important ones. Your well being is far more important than them.

Many people have weaknesses due to a dominant personality in their life, somebody who opposes their will. If you are in this situation please do the following exercise.

Write down all people who oppose your will on a separate piece of paper set out like below.

Eliminate them one by one until the most dominant person remains. (You MUST only be left with one name).

Enter that person’s name here——————————————————- does make mistakes, have their own insecurities and problems, none of these are a reflection on you or your character. Read this to yourself over and over.

Example JOHN SMITH does make mistakes, have their own insecurities and problems, none of these are a reflection on you or your character.

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